5 people who should not be invited to your wedding

One conundrum that affianced couple face is who to invite to their wedding. Just the fact that you have lived your life and been in contact with so much people individually does not mean that you have to invite them all.

If you make a list there are family, immediate and extended, friends from school, work, church and childhood. This could add up to a considerable amount for both parties, but luckily, there are measures you can take or questions you can answer to narrow down you potential guest list to a manageable size to capture exactly who you want to be there.

Lets start with the people you do not invite.

 Ex’s who hate you/ may still be in love with you. So you have shared a portion of your life with this person previously during the course of your life, you can rest assured that you are not obligated to invite them to your special day. It does not matter how amiable you have remained and continue to be after this relationship, it is not very polite that your fiancé should be made known or be made uncomfortable of their presence in your life.

The Plus One. Truly this plus one concept is being blown out of proportion. Your wedding is a joyous occasion that you share and want those close to you. Therefore, the plus one of a friend or family member who does not know you or have not been in your guests life for a short period in time does not warrant an invite to your wedding. A plus one should be for married friends or long-term relationship couples.

Family you have never met or haven’t seen for years. Yes it polite to invite family. But at some point before you issue invitations you must ask yourself if you really want your cousin twice removed and his aunt at your wedding. Do you know them that well to justify your inviting them or are you inviting them simply out of politeness and wondering how it would look if you forgo sending their invitation. Keep in mind, if you want to, you can and if you don’t want to, you shouldn’t.

Co-workers you are simply people you work with. No everyone you work with are your friends. Careful consideration should be paid here. You need to ask the question, ‘if I were to leave this job tomorrow, would I keep in contact with this person?’ if the answer is no, by all means, give you invitation to someone more worthy.

Children. Maybe you want your wedding to exclude children and only have parents and adults there. When issuing your invitations, make sure that this is clearly communicated so guests do not arrive with their entire family in tow to mess up your catering and seating arrangements.

     It's your day, so surely you can invite who you want!

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Why did you get married or why you should.

Some of the most interesting discussions I have had the privilege of participating in have been on the subject of ‘Why do people get married?’ Interestingly enough, on these occasions, the women were of the view that is was ‘for the love’ whereas one of the guys expressed that he was adamant that he was never going to get married, that was his firm belief, but now he has been happily bound to a beautiful woman in Holy Matrimony for the past twenty years.

Beside the views of the two groups, I had the pleasure of attending the wedding of two of my dear friends this month and what was indicative to me, and I am of the opinion of everyone in the church, was that these two beautiful people were very much in love.

But according to one of my guy friends ‘women always say that they get married because of love but love is not enough to get married.’

So beside ‘Love’, here are 10 reasons on why people get married:

1: Marriage makes you want to be a better person. With marriage you seek to better yourself; individually, educationally, financially, emotionally and sometimes physically.

2: Marriage makes you share parts of yourself with another person who you ultimately trust. You know that there is someone that you can depend on and trust with your feeling and deepest darkest fears and insecurities.

3: Marriage ensures that your name and bloodline will continue to another generation. This is a stable environment to grow up children. The nuclear family is still the most sought after family group. It does not mean that children are not born into single parent families and bloodlines cannot be continued.

4: Marriage is the most romantic thing that you can do to show a person that you appreciate them. It is a gesture in-front of God, your family and friends that shows how much you love each other and promise to be at each other’s side through thick and thin.

5: Marriage is not a tradition but is new to each person when they enter into it. Although the institute of marriage has been around since biblical times and can be seen as a tradition, I must point out that a tradition is an event or gesture that an individual or society repeats on a yearly or monthly basis. Marriage in this case, to most people, is something new that they have an intention of entering into only once in your life. So, to the naysayers who say marriage is an archaic tradition, I respectfully disagree with you.

6: Marriage improves your financial position in life. Two incomes are always better than one. It means more money to spend on bettering your living conditions and way of life etc.

7: Marriage encourages family values. Brothers and sisters growing up with their parents discourages worry and unsureness within children and parents always know that they are working together to make the lives of the entire family the best that they can make it out to be.

8: Marriage encourages faithfulness. Knowing that you made a commitment to someone you love is encouragement to keep your promise. It lessens guilt and keeps love between each partner growing stronger every day.

9: Marriage reports of more sexual pleasure and fulfillment. This goes hand in hand with the contentment you feel with sharing yourself mind, body and soul with the one person on this earth that you trust.

10: Marriage fosters more interaction with mothers and fathers towards their children compared to parents and children who are separated. There is more time spent with children within marriage by both parents than the imbalance of most time spent with one over the other.

In my consideration, Love is the foundation that you base marriage on and then you continue to build on it with these different reasons.

So yes! Get married, plan the perfect wedding with the one you love. Reach for the stars in your quest for love, happiness and companionship. Just be assured that the wedding day is only the beginning, it is the first day of the rest of your lives.

You can leave your comments below to tell me of why you got married or want to get married. I am always interested in hearing what my readers have to say.

Simplistic Design Ideas for your wedding

As we are on the subject of Wedding décor, it is good to establish that there are different kinds of décor. It is either ‘simplistic’ or ‘over the top’. Whatever décor you decide upon, just be assured that it has the potential to be beautiful.

An interesting, noteworthy fact is that the two décor ‘genres’ can embody the same styles.  

If you are going with the simplistic décor, you must ensure that your venue is naturally decorated. This means a garden with blooming flowers or the beach with the rolling waves, or a cathedral with tinted/stained glass. Here, the venue is already decorated for you so you only have to add the few touches to make it spectacular.

In addition to the natural décor there are a few basic ideas when applied can make your simplistic décor look as if it is worth a million dollars.

1: Potted Plants – what you want is an indication of sophistication. Potted plants adds that level of sophistication where artificial flowers may drop short. One event that used potted plants was the Royal Wedding of Prince William and Princess Kate. You may not want such extravagant plants lining the aisle but u can consider renting smaller ones to suite your occasion and fancy.

2: Candles – instead of flower arrangements, you can use candles. This is very romantic but may create a fire hazard. Therefore, you should ensure that the correct prevention measures are in place to obliterate any untoward effects candles may have. In this case, you can also use LED candles or lamps to eliminate smoke but, still achieve the right effect.

3: Drapery – Gossamer, Tulle and Satin are clothes that give wonderful drapery. They each also exhibit a different look and feel to the occasion. The gossamer and tulle will give an ethereal effect while the satin will be bold to embody an exquisite finish.

4: Carpet aisles – most brides usually have flower girls throwing flower petals in the aisle before their entrance, an alternative to this is, laying a red, or blue or green carpet. This can be one of the focal points of the ceremony as it will naturally draw the attention of the guests while creating a glamorous entrance for the bride.   

5: Bubbles – you can provide vials to guests to blow as a means of celebration after you vow taking and walk down the aisle as an official couple or it can be used during your first dance and official photoshoot. It is the perfect substitute to messy confetti, stains from flower petals or rice that may endanger the lives of birds.

In essence, these décor ideas though simple can transform the visual effect of your wedding from plain and drab to striking while making everything photo-ready on the day of your wedding.